Arranged Marriage Vs Love Marriage
Marriage is a relationship that bind of a spouse in formal event and registered by law as to declare a husband and wife. Marriage is key to form a family into larger as a basic unit in social system. Marriage also bind of the emotional relationship where both spouse are sharing their life together as to form a family. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but unfortunately in a real life is increasingly end up by a divorce. As to discuss about the topic above, it depends on the national tradition and religion custom. In most, though not all primitive societies are practicing the marriage as to decide who is the best for their children, or even forced them it still accepted by law. Whether arranged marriage or love marriage tending to be the best option? I personal think that arranged marriage is the best option rather than love marriage. Furthermore, I am experiencing the same way in my marriage. I was born in a family that prioritize the religion in life. So, I believed by obeying my religion and my parents option, my life after marriage will get blessing and happiness regards. Nowadays, with the social dynamic changes in technology and globalization, this may not be the best options for some people. Well, as we can see, by internet specifically in social website like Facebook, there are offering a large number in provides them to look for a spouse. I believed, our parent option seems to be the best because they are not judging only in a one particular aspect. Sometime we tend to look into the appearance looks rather than the individual personality itself. Our parents have already experienced a marriage life and they tend to have a strong intuition in valuing people. Therefore, they will be able to vision out and valuing through their background, personality, family and economic aspect. They would definitely choose the best for their children. On the contrary, love marriage tends to value in only emotional aspect rather than the rest. As to prove this content, statistics of the Department of Islamic Development Malaysia (JAKIM) in 2009 showed that there was a divorce in every 15 minutes within the Muslim community, said Deputy Minister in the Prime Minister's Department Datuk Mashitah Ibrahim. Surprisingly, this statistic increasingly each year. One of the major factor that lead to divorce is cause by the economic problem. Obviously, this is proven that economic is important in building a good marriage and love marriage don’t really look into it. Sometimes, love marriage tending to ignore parents blessing. They decided to get married without asking for the parents blessing. Personally, do you think this is the best option to build a happy family?
Frankly, by looking into the title above, we likely to have the speculation and narrow views and easily jump into conclusion where ‘arranged marriage’ is a marriage that have been decided by parent and we have no choice except to obey it. Doesn’t it? In the 20th century nowadays, arranged marriage should not be judged by the orthodox view. Arranged marriage is a marriage arranged by someone other than the couple getting wedded; not only the parent, but it can be anyone. Who? For instance like aunts, friends, siblings, relatives or even the agencies and affiliation. You won’t be easily get cheated by someone where people that I have mentioned above tend to knows them better. Equally important, internet can also be the medium that keeps you valuing them. As an illustration, Facebook can allows you to keep in touch and knows them better. By looking at their profile, we can roughly valuing their personality and interest. Arrange marriage is not a marriage that ignore the personal feeling of both candidates before marriage. It allows you to keep in touch and know each other before getting marriage. I strongly believe, by arranged marriage, the spouse will live happily ever after....
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