step 1- Change Your Actions
There’s something you probably never realized...
The reason that you’re friends (and not intimate) with this girl is DIRECTLY related to the things that you did when you first met her. As your relationship developed, you made her look at you like a buddy, NOT as a sexual being.
In order change her opinion, you need to “shake things up” a bit! This means ELIMINATING the specific actions that initially pushed you into the ‘friends zone’. For instance, here are a few things you need to STOP doing immediately:
• Calling her all the time
• Listening to her talk about her guy problems
• Taking her on ‘pseudo’ dates
• Putting her needs in front of yours
• Being the shoulder she can always cry on
You might think this is a bit drastic, but remember we’re trying to completely shift the nature of your relationship. So, it’s necessary to have her completely change the way she thinks of you.
The key is to do these things without coming across as a complete asshole. What I suggest is to simply become “really busy” in your life. Don’t completely blow her off, but let her know that you need to take care of some things for awhile.
Which brings us to the next phase of this plan...
Step 2- Transform Yourself
Now that we’ve removed yourself from her immediate radar, you’re going to work on becoming the kind of person she would find sexually enticing. Whereas you were once her “emotional tampon”, you’ll now become someone who she WANTS to date.
This means creating an attractive lifestyle where she can’t help but be drawn to you!
First, start doing stuff that makes YOU happy. I’ve found that an infatuation with a particular woman often stems from not having a lot going on with your life. By engaging in activities that are fun, you’ll start to gain a broader perspective on this particular woman.
Perhaps she might even be as great as you once thought!
Next, you should start hanging out with more...
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