Gay Marriage In America
April 29th 2011
Gay Marriage In America
The director and founder of the Marriage-Equality organization Freedom to Marry, Evan Wolfson, says that when the term “gay marriage” is used it suggests that homosexuals are asking for special privileges or are expecting to get them. However, I could not disagree with that statement more. Marriage is marriage, when you call it a “gay marriage” it takes the meaning of it down a notch. I like the way Joel Defner explains it, “A menu is a menu, but a kids menu is a very particular kind of menu, sharing some but not all of the qualities of other menus.” Marriage is marriage, and offers a host of possibilities. "Gay marriage," I think, offers fewer.
Many people have strong opinions regarding “gay marriage”, but they have drawn quite different conclusions in addressing the following questions: 1. Would same-sex “marriage” undercut the sexual fidelity norm within a marriage? 2. Would same-sex “marriage” further isolate marriage from its purpose of being procreative? This remainder of my essay focuses on these two questions.
Would same-sex “marriage” undercut the sexual fidelity norm within a marriage?
I feel that there is a big threat same-sex “marriage” poses to marriage. Same-sex “marriage” has the potential to undercut the norm of sexual fidelity within marriage. In Vermont there has been a recent study of civil unions and marriages that suggests that this should be a real concern. The study showed that more than 80 percent of heterosexual married men and women said that they strongly valued sexual fidelity. Only about 50 percent of gay couples in civil unions valued sexual fidelity. (Rothblum, 2003) The surveys clearly show that there is a considerable difference between the view points of heterosexuals and homosexuals when it comes to the value...
References: Steven Rhoads, Taking Sex Differences Seriously (Encounter Books, 2004).
Esther Rothblum and Sondra Solomon, Civil Unions in the State of Vermont: A Report on the First Year. University of Vermont Department of Psychology, 2003.
David McWhirter and Andrew Mattison, The Male Couple (Prentice Hall, 1984) 252.
E. Mavis Hetherington and John Kelly, For Better or For Worse. (W.W. Norton and Co., 2002) 31
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